My dear friends
You’ve honored me this evening to a degree
I feel I don’t yet deserve
When I read about the work of my fellow honorees
I felt humbled
and certain that among us
I am the one with much to prove
I believe I’ve received this award
not so much because of what I’ve done
but because of the way I was born and raised
I was born the younger sister of a gay man
My older brother Mike
and the daughter of parents who were
both empathetic to and loving of the LGBT community
In my househood
being gay was and is no big deal
When my brother came out, we hugged him
said we loved him, and that was that
When he brought his first boyfriend, now husband home for a couple weeks one Christmas
my father’s only comment to my mother was:
please
try not to mix up our underwear
We had no idea that
I would become recognizable because of my work
and that we would become publicly
labeled as having an “alternative family lifestyle”
Just for the record, we don’t feel that
there is actually anything alternative
about our family values
So for semantic reasons only
it’s with some hesitation that I accept the HRCLI award
I don’t consider myself just an ally to the LGBT community I consider myself your family
and so
I’m doing, what we should all do, with our families
I’m loving you, I support you, I completely accept you
as you are, as I hope you do me
and if anyone, ever, tries to hurt you
I’m gonna give them hell
There are people who‘ve said that
I’m being brave for being openly supportive of
gay marriage, gay adoption…basically of gay rights
but with all due respect, I humbly dissent
I’m not being brave
I’m being a decent human being
and I don’t think I should receive an award for that
or for merely stating what I believe to be true
that love, is a human experience, not a political statement However, I acknowledge that sadly we live in a world where not everybody feels the same
My family and I will help the good fight continue
until what long awaited moment arrives
when our rights are equal
and when the political limits on love have been smashed This award dose not in any way represents
the pinnacle of my relationship with the LGBT community rather, it is a triumphant roar
to announce that we are just beginning our fight together In closing
to paraphrase Enis Del Mar, who was unforgettably embodied by the late, the great Heath Ledger
I swear, HRC, I swear,
I have not yet done enough to deserve this award
but don’t worry
the best is yet to come
Thank you so much!
Thank you from the bottom of my heart!
I love you all!
Thank you so much!
Kiss each other!