惩罚孩子的正确方法
1, exhortation
Case: quarrel with your partner and rob toys......
Method: put the work at hand and walked beside the child, let the child know that you are paying attention and attention; then ask why children quarrel, quarrel, and patiently listening to the child's mind; to encourage children to beat, rob is not correct behavior and idea, and asked the child to learn to say "please, thank you, sorry".
Advice: don't press or threaten your child with a loud voice; don't pull the child away directly, then scold the child loudly; no, avoid hurting your child's self-esteem.
2, hit the palm of the hand
Case: fighting, throwing things......
How to use the newspaper to make a paper stick, the appearance can be coated with a layer of paper; give it a name, such as "guard rod", "Chen Jiabang"...... Place in a fixed place as an alert.
Suggestion: in a good mood, and children together to discuss the reasons for making guard bar; to punish the child, let him say in what place he was wrong; remind the reasons for punishment; Caution!, playing the part with the palm, butt and other parts should be avoided.
3, take a seat
Case: noisy, bickering......
Method: place a cushion or a chair on the penalty area. You may wish to have a name; prepare an alarm clock or clock, and count the penalty time.
Recommendation: the penalty site is not facing the gate, not too obvious; limit the penalty time, or let the child speak how long punishment; after the punishment, let the child say today's punishment reasons.
4. Help with housework
Case: graffiti, litter and toys......
Methods: preparing a rag, broom, pot and other cleaning tools, let the children clean up and develop clean habits.
Suggestion: parents should always pay attention to the safety of children; small children with their parents to lead by doing housework; training children to develop the habit of proper order; ask the child to help the family to learn what.
5, painting
Case: love curse, arrests, kicking, biting and other little tricks.
Methods: according to the family situation, put a small table
on the fixed position (here is best not to use the usual penalty table to the dining table, desk, desk, lest the child after the use of these tables, will produce fear, fear); for an album and different colors of the brush, let children draw, write your ideas.
Suggestion: when children are injured, the injured area and then to deal with punishment; let the children will take time and do the wrong thing to draw down; adults to control their emotions, can be learned from the children's paintings, children make mistakes psychological thoughts; this is the art therapy, can not hurt children's self-esteem.
6, penalty station
Case: deliberately jump from a height, the car slowly.
Method: planning a penalty area at home, you can choose a name, the place is on the wall, not toward the main gate; the ground is covered with cushions; prepare a clock or alarm clock, the timing of the child's punishment.
Suggestion: punishment place should not be too obvious or is on the door, so as not to hurt the child's self-esteem; and the child punishment time should not be too long, otherwise it will cause the child more naughty negative effects; as the child's height to determine the cushion height; after the punishment, ask the child to be punished, let the children know the wrong reasons.
7, read and write
Case: violence, lying, pilfering......
Methods: choose a fixed penalty area covered cushion or placing a small table; put the pencil inside the penalty area, paper, color pen, story books, paper...... Let the child write or read first, and defuse the anger of the child.
Advice: when not immediately put down the work, can be called the children to the penalty area to reflect; do not rage against the dying children, and children first isolation, to ease each other's emotions; such emotions calm down, ask the children make mistakes motivation.
8. Confiscate your beloved
Case: noisy, disorderly things, no toys......
Method: confiscate the child's lost items as a punishment.
Suggestion: first down the work at hand and walked beside the child, let the children know that mother is attention and concern; tell them to throw things away, stop the noise, or they will be punished; let the children to say why the mistake, and mother angry reason.
9, row beans
Case: for lack of patience, lost things and so on.
Method: prepare a box, plate, in which there are red, green and
other colored beads, a few plastic cans; let the child on the punishment table, the beads of various colors placed in the correct position.
Suggestion: if a child is very rebellious, as the case for children to modify treatment, can stand, sit and punishment; this purpose in training children to develop the habit of proper order; training hand eye coordination, resolution; after the completion of, let the children know that the reason to be punished.
10, prohibit certain rights and demands
Case: don't like brushing your teeth, picky eaters, throwing things......
Way: the children love to eat and play things temporarily prohibit touch, as a punishment.
Suggestion: not by threats, angry attitude toward the children said loudly; let the children know the reasons for prohibiting these rights, when the day after the good performance of the children, to restore their rights.
Precautions for the implementation of penalties:
Key: grasp the principles, control emotions
In addition, the experts also said that the children's growth process, will inevitably make mistakes, whether unintentional or intentional, when parents punish the child, still need to
pay attention to some things, so as to avoid adverse sequelae.
1, security issues, penalties for materials to avoid too hard;
2. Control your emotional reactions;
3, the penalty site should choose not obvious, not to the gate, so as not to hurt the child's self-esteem;
4, pay attention to wording, tone, not to threaten, intimidation of words, said to the child;
5, the content of the punishment should be thoroughly implemented, not tolerant and compromise;
6, after punishment, appease the child, let him know his parents care and love for him.