一个好父亲胜过100个校长

一个好父亲胜过100个校长 Gerdi, a famous psychologist, said: "father is a unique presence and has a special power to develop children.". Habets, a famous English writer, also said, "a father is better than 100 schoolmasters.". "From the day the father, this is a lifelong occupation, a good father, will learn how to educate children, learning how to love children, my father, propped up the clear blue sky for the children, let the children have a brilliant life. Father power Maybe dads are busy with work, and mothers are always the ones who take care of their children; maybe dads are too social and mostly play with their mothers; maybe dads are always working overtime, and the children can't touch dad for a day...... But a child needs more than just a bill in his pocket. Aside from material, how much influence does father have on children? The promotion of children's intelligence The research shows that the development of children's intelligence is closely related to their close contact with their fathers. Psychologist Mike points out that children who are in contact with fathers for less than 2 hours a day have higher IQs than those who are exposed to less than 6 hours a week. More interestingly, the researchers also found that fathers had more influence on girls than boys, and fathers who had close relationships with their fathers scored better. An intelligent father who inspires his children with his own wisdom. Influence on physical and mental health of children According to a US survey, even a baby who is still hazy may suffer from symptoms such as restlessness, loss of appetite, depression and irritability due to lack of paternal love. Younger children who lack paternal affection are more at risk of developing the syndrome. Children who grow up in both parents but lack paternal affection may be more likely to suffer from paternal deficiency syndrome. Children who suffer from childhood syndrome are 2 times more likely to drop out of school, 2 times higher than the crime rate, and 3 times more likely to become single mothers when they grow up. In the absence of a father's family, the child's emotional change is more intense, more impulsive after growing up, there are more negligence and anti social behavior, lack of self-control, have a more extreme personality. Children's important game partner As the baby grew up, his independence and the ability to deal with life gradually strengthened, and he no longer satisfied with the way his mother lived and lived. At this point, the father will become an important game partner for the child, and the child will learn a lot from his mother's way of communication. If the father will be more through games and children, and once the end of the game, the father can quickly transfer the mood, let the children feel very fresh, but also conducive to the child should experience emotional demands restraint in what time you too much. So, fathers who work too hard, fathers who think they have nothing to do with their fathers, who complain of having no time to teach their children, take time out to play with their children. Bringing a sense of accomplishment to children Psychological research has proved that dads have many influences on their children, for example, in the process of forming children's sense of achievement, Dad has a much greater influence on children. Some people compare social achievements with no achievements, and find that people's achievements are closely related to father son relationship. A successful person is generally close to his father; a lower achiever is more distant from his father. Children in school, social ability is also concerned with the relationship between father and son: cold, children in the understanding of math and reading scores are low, there is insecurity in the interpersonal relationship, low self-esteem, often manifested as anxiety, not easy to get along well with others. The difference between Dad and boy in girls' growing up Traditionally, the mother is raising a child, in fact, build up a good relationship between the father and the child, the role is much bigger than people think, boys and girls can learn something different from the father. Father is the object of boy imitation We often say: "this child with his father was carved out of a mold, behavior are as like as two peas. "Dad is often the embodiment of power, authority, and wisdom, and his father's behavior is a subtle influence on the boy. He can learn some masculine behavior from his father.". There was a boy, his father came home once a week, usually are gentle and mother care, children go to school, and not always love girls and boys to play, play together, even when they are muzzled laugh. If the lack of father's care in life, boys will be girls, timid, cowardly, no masculinity. So, without dad, the male's behavioral traits weaken. Daddy is a girl dependent port We often say: "the daughter is intimate small cotton padded jacket. "Girls are soft, caring and understanding. Tall and strong father will give his daughter to bring a sense of security, is proud of her daughter, her daughter will become a future mate reference standard. But if Dad no time to accompany her daughter, and the daughter of communication, timely understanding of daughter's heart, I'm afraid it won't intimate small cotton padded jacket. Especially the daughter to adolescence, some helpless father, from the daughter's life out, and give her daughter completely to mother, this is the daughter's growth is extremely unfavorable. How to build good relationships with children? Many dads will say to their partners, "you have to teach our baby well, and I'll be responsible for making money for you.". "Given sufficient material conditions, is that a good parent-child relationship?" Of course not. Material is not an effective link between parenthood. How does daddy build a relationship with the baby? Since childhood Is a few months ago, especially at the age of fifth months, when the baby is a familiar face recognition stage, the father must often in the baby's side, such as the baby of the familiar faces, established after the foundation of good interaction with the baby. If you miss this period, you need to spend more time and Thoughts on your baby to make up for the missing times. Interaction with children As babies grow older, they begin to learn to walk, to run, and to dance, Father to do more interaction with the baby, in general, this is the father's strengths, may wish to run and children, jumping, climbing, climbing and other mobile games and intelligent games. If the father can participate in child riddles, stories, and maze building blocks and so on special education activities, so children gain even more. Also, competitive activities are good, such as running, hide and seek, and so on. Attach importance to the quality of being with children" When father and child are together, not only must have "quantity" (time, opportunity), but also should pay attention to "quality" (can promote the deeper feeling between father and son, accumulate happy recollection). Fathers should deliberately schedule some time and elaborate how to spend their time with their children, so that the "love tank" between father and son will be filled. Build equal relationships with children The relationship between father and son should not be only father's guide, but two people support each other. Some fathers are always on the high side, and children are not attached to you. He is an independent individual and his father is interdependent and cooperative with each other. The father should learn to put down the figure, standing in the angle between the child and the child, when their friends get along, so you can see the children in mind, and children will have more sincere, more conducive to the establishment of a strong and intimate family emotion. As the old saying goes, "if you do not teach your father, you can live with your father", you can see that if you are absent in your education, your father will be incompetent. As a father, the first cry of a child, the first smile, the first walk, have you witnessed? Do you share the joys and sorrows of your child's growing up? When a child asks "one hundred thousand whys", are you patient enough to discuss it with him? Did you appear in time when your child needed you? For the healthy growth of your child, father, please return as soon as possible!