孩子的变化

孩子的变化 1 and a half years old: cantankerousness 2: start caring about others 2 and a half: let one head, two big first rebellion 3 years old: like to share with others 3 and a half years old: lack of security 4 years old: love bragging 4 and a half: can't tell the truth from the fantasy 5 years old: lovely golden time 5 and a half to 6: extreme self centeredness Age 7: likes to be alone 8 years: have the ability to evaluate affairs 9 years: the pursuit of perfection 10: a wonderful buffer period before puberty When all the sisters send their children accordingly, please pay attention to two points: the above description may be earlier or later (because the individual child's growth pace); may also change is not so obvious (individual child personality and environment). The following begins with a statement Two - ---------------------------- How bad are the little rascals around 2, and we already know that. The most prominent features include: The word "no" when, where, roll, persist in wilfully and arbitrarily possessive and selfish and overbearing In fact, the child's behavior is just because the child began to have a sense of self, will, intention. But they do not know how to express themselves, and even they do not quite understand their own intentions. They're not bad, do not torment mother, savage and absurd. Treat such a small baby, the book provides remediation skills mainly to persuasion, bypass based. Safety first: don't tell the children not to play, not to touch. You should lock up the lock yourself, and you should buckle the lid off the lid. Law of life: hungry, thirsty, tired, sleepy, stuffy, children easily lose their temper. You should try to find the rules of your child's life, and take appropriate steps before your child falls into a trap that might lead to a bad mood, such as letting your child eat, sleep, and bring to other places. Divert attention: the baby is moving so fast that you need to make good use of it. For example, you hold the child into the dining dinner, flipping children refused to go, you don't have to. Take some small carrots, wheat circle what coax him, he eat happy mood, and then hold the chair to. Audience: when children roll where inappropriate, improper audience. No audience, the actor is boring. Bypass the head: if you ask, "would you like to take a bath?" The answer must be "no"!" You can say, "do you want to play a small duck in the bathtub or playing a small bucket?" Relax yourself: when you're too tired, too sleepy, and too hungry, you're as prone to anger as your child. Just as with a child, be nice to yourself and give yourself enough electricity before you expect yourself to get into the bad mood zone. At the age of three and --------------------------- Emotionally, the three year old is a happy age, friendly, quiet, safe, receptive and happy to share. In two and a half years, noisy children, by the time they reach the age of three, suddenly become quiet and gentle. He will always say "good" or "yes". Laugh more often than you cry, and it is easier for you to compromise than you used to. At the age of three, most children show a steady state of physical or psychological development, especially emotional development. At this point, he already has a good sense of self and a strong sense of self. Of course, his self-concept has a lot to do with how others treat him. At the age of three, he had a strong refusal to reduce his attitude, instead of sharing or relying on him, but he also realized his growth and ability. At the same time, three is also "our age."". He would like to say, "let's come." let's go for a walk together. This kind of doing together or our feelings makes him feel dependent. At the same time, he likes to share. My child, who used to like to be independent, now often says to her mother, "do it for me, or you can show it to me.". He likes to play with other children, but his favorite person is his mother. Especially mom put down the things, pay attention to him, tell stories to him, play games with him or accompany him, always bring him happy mood. He is quite mature and comfortable in controlling the movements of his limbs. He walked steadily, walked well, ran smoothly, and made no sharp turns. When he walks, his hands swing naturally, without exaggerating the arm to balance the center of gravity. His development is also a kind of field in language ability. He likes to learn new words, especially those words: "new", "secret", "scared", "difficult". When things are at an impasse, if you are right, you can save the scene. For example, you say, a little surprise or a small gift of the word, and you are the actual show this small gift is, even if it is a small piece of biscuit, also can make children unlimited joy, just not happy to forget. But when you enjoy the good times don't last long, at this time, the time has quietly took him to another stage of growth, and this stage is 13 to three years old half of this age is different. This is stability, there will be a period of instability. Three years old is the age of cooperation, three and a half is just the opposite. Resistance is the greatest feature of the age of three and a half to four. For moms, three and a half would like to do everything right with her. Three and a half is an introvert, anxious, insecure, and a man of great willpower. Sometimes, we will inevitably think that he is only so stubborn, because he is too confident. In fact, that's not the case at all, and it's just the opposite. Three and a half years old child is very insecure, and even in his physiology, developers also show his insecurity, such as stuttering, wrestling, and sometimes nervous trembling. Emotional and physical insecurity often occurs at this stage. On the one hand, he lacks the sense of security, but on the other hand he wants to dominate the outside world. Because he can not control his emotions, every day, he struggled in life, life was very unpleasant. He often tries to control the outside world to reduce his anxiety and uneasiness. For example, he sang order people around, don't look at don't laugh a minute, he was elated command. But as soon as others pay little attention to him, she immediately asks everyone to pay attention to him. He didn't ask his mother to talk on the phone. He didn't let his father read the newspaper. Even his parents couldn't talk to each other. He is experiencing his relationship with others, and the individual as a self. He's not interested in doing that to us, and that's one of the reasons he's dictating. He felt that other people's inadvertent glances were a violation of his autonomy. Friends are important to him at the age of three and a half. That is, because he is hot with his friends, it is his behavior that has a pleasing side. Many children at this age have imaginary friends who have human beings and animals. Some children love to others into their own, they are "kitten" sometimes, "dog" or "pony". These companions, some very fragile, easy to be ordered, some is a boss looks, love others. But the consolation is that some children at this time to grow quickly, especially some of the slow development of the child, will son this time to catch up with his companions, there are slower to learn to speak of the boy, also in the three and a half years old, become articulate. Language ability of the glaze, will make three and a half children's behavior more satisfactory. More interestingly, the Oedipus complex will appear at this time. For his parents, we were extremely careful when he was three and a half years old. Although this is a bad time, but the child is not your enemy, and he did not mean to you, but he is physically and mentally unstable state of his daily life, we have to pay more effort to spend more time to deal with. To accept the fact that he is looking for the biggest emotional outlet for his age is his mother. And when he's not in the mood, make time to play with him. Perhaps he is a happy and gentle child, he can calm through the three year old Peninsula four years of this period, so we do not have to worry that he did not show unstable features. If he does, we can rest assured. Because even if the temper is good, the child will be unstable The four year old ------------------- conducting Three year old child has a gentle heart, four year old child's heart is lively. A typical four year old child love adventure, love hiking, love stimulation, he loved any new things, to contact people who do not know love, love to a new place, new games, new toys, new activities and new. No one is more responsive to the entertainment ideas that adults offer. A typical four year old is quick to move, he does everything quickly, his interest shifts quickly, and he does most of the important work once. He was not interested in being perfect, and only interested in continuing the next event. The child of this age, both men and women, mostly gay and full of go, alive and kicking, absurd, unrestrained, eager to have what thing. Compared with three years and a half when he was noisy and noisy, his change was not so small. He often speaks a little more now, also a little bit boastful, sometimes some domineering. It's all because he's getting into the realm of self-expression, fresh and over excited. A child of three and a half is often characterized by a strong resistance to what adults ask for, perhaps because, in his mind, an adult is still omnipotent. Four years old child will not be so, he seems to make a big step forward, he found that although adults still have power, but not almighty, and he also found himself very powerful. From his point of view, the evil can not be done, and the roof will not fall down. To accept your offer of four year old child will have no opinion, jubilant, no matter you are what ideas, thus giving the children of this age are the heart of the toys, books, clothes, experience or messages, is a happy thing. Because no matter what you give him, his eyes will sparkle. Although four year old children love a lot of things, but his mood is very extreme. He was also a lot of love and hate. No one could say for sure what was causing his hatred. But whatever it is, within a reasonable range, his feelings should be fully respected. A child of four has a strong feeling for his mother, and if something changes his mother in sight, he expresses a particularly strong hatred of it. He may hate his mother wearing some jewelry, and perhaps she doesn't like her mother changing her hair, or if she has a special expression on her face that tells her she doesn't like him, he may hate that expression. No doubt, adults should always keep up with the quickness and variety of a four year old. A child of four loves to expand outward, and sometimes he can't stand it himself. So he still likes and respects the limitations, but he doesn't always want to remind you to remind him often. A child of four, who is always running outside, is often out of practice, but he can be relied on if he is careful. Before he was four and a half years old, many children were reassured by their parents to allow them to play outside without watching or checking. However, the children want to know, in the end he was cut before the adults, can play to where, if he needs love and the outward expansion of the habit with the four year old child will show - the greatest feature of this age love beyond the scope. So many children at the age of four is love, "where, as far as the tree, as far as the door" these verbal restrictions. Even to the extent that， If you tell him you should do it or not do it, he will stick to it. A normal, energetic and gifted four year old child seems to behave in an unruly manner in every field of life. In action, if he gets hot, he kicks and plays and spits; if anything goes wrong, he may run away from home. He is always impulsive, whether he is happy or unhappy. In the mood, he is also extremely not remain in a proper sphere. He laughed when things pleased him, and when things were wrong, he cried. He laughs more often than he does, and he likes to see other people laugh. As a matter of fact, he is always a fool. However, he has a side effect and is a rhetorical exaggeration. He often boasted that he was as tall as the sky, and that the one hundred thousand worms were as big as the house. He would also brag that my family was bigger. In addition to boasting, he boasted himself. Boys tend to call each other names that they think are very masculine, rather than using their real name to emphasize their masculinity. At the age of four he was interested in the process of defecation and his own excrement. Children are especially fascinated by the movements of the bowels. In addition to walking, he can even recognize every place where a dog has passed its poop. The four year old children often talk is intolerable to the ear of words, * * *, * * *, is often heard. If the friend offended him, he might call him an egg. Generally speaking, children will use such nouns and adjectives in the people they do not accept. Parents need to be more careful about what they say and do. On the other hand, if children don't use real language, they will criticize adults with words that are almost insulting and threatening. If you do, you don't have to reprimand him angrily, but tell him calmly, is that so? Or blinking your eyes to show that you know the truth, so that he will soon tell the truth. Children four and a half years old are not easy to predict: A child of four and a half is very interested in whether or not things are real, and his uncertainty can be seen from this. Is that true? This question is his pet phrase. Children of four and a half are interested in collecting new messages, and he can also do a better job of learning the skills he used before. He doesn't play as wild as he was four years old, and he can endure setbacks. However, in emotional management, it is difficult to fathom, always crying, laughing quickly, quickly. Children four and a half years old become stubborn when they are blocked. At this point, try to distract him in a humorous way, but it's not as easy as four years old. Four and a half year old child, gradually know the authority, and when the parents scolded him, one had no previous expression -- confused, will listen to his face, and by the expression of fear. When parents see this expression, they may want to conform to his demands, and this may be the time to bargain with him. From this period of time, the child also gradually understand good things good or bad. The happiest thing in this period is to listen to small stories before bedtime. He likes to listen to his parents when they were young and how bad they were. Techniques for dealing with four year olds: 1 share and create with him. 2 ignore his bad behavior. 3 accept his boast. 4 and he insults (if the child with a rude remark against you, you can also play games with him to yell, freeing his pent up emotions. When you scold, is really like to scold him: you mean like squash caterpillar. This kind of absurd language until you yell laughter instead of anger.) 5 give him a special time 6 give verbal norms 7 consult with him 8 try to avoid situations where there will be trouble 9 stop talking on the phone (four year old kids hate mom's phone calls) 10 use positive and humorous guidance 11 use secret words 12 speak softly instead of yelling 13 sometimes brag 14 talk to him heart and soul 15 watch TV programs carefully