I'M A STRANGER HERE MYSELF
NOTES ON RETURNING TO AMERICA AFTER TWENTY YEARS AWAY
Bill Bryson
Copyright© 1999 ISBN 0-7679-0382-X
INTRODUCTION
In the late summer of 1996, an old journalist friend from London named Simon Kelner called me in New
Hampshire, to where I had lately moved after living for twenty-some years in Britain. Simon had recently
been made editor of Night & Day magazine, a supplement of the Mail on Sunday newspaper, and it was his
idea that I should write a weekly column for him on America.
At various times over the years Simon had persuaded me to do all kinds of work that I didn't have time to
do, but this was way out of the question.
"No," I said. "I can't. I'm sorry. It's just not possible. I've got too much on."
"So can you start next week?" "Simon, you don't seem to understand. I can't do it." "We thought we'd call it
'Notes from a Big Country.'" "Simon, you'll have to call it 'Big Blank Space in the Magazine' because I
cannot do it."
"Splendid, splendid," he said, but a trifle absently. I had the impression that he was doing something else at
the same time-reviewing models for a swimsuit issue would be my guess. In any case, he kept covering up
the phone and issuing important editor-type instructions to other people in the vicinity.
"So we'll send you a contract," he went on when he came back to me.
"No, Simon, don't do that. I can't write a weekly column for you. It's as simple as that. Are you taking this
in? Tell me you are taking this in."
"Excellent. I'm absolutely delighted. We're all delighted.
Well, must run."
"Simon, please listen to me. I can't take on a weekly column. Just not possible. Simon, are you hearing this?
Simon? Hello? Simon, are you there? Hello? Bugger."
And that is how I became a newspaper columnist, a pursuit I followed for the next two years, from
September 1996 to September 1998. The thing about a weekly column, I discovered, is that it comes up
weekly. Now this may seem a self-evident fact, but in two years there never came a week when it did not
strike me as both profound and startling. Another column? Already? But I just did one.
I mention this to make the point that what follows was not • intended to be-could not be-a systematic
portrait of America. Mostly I wrote about whatever little things had lately filled my days-a trip to the post
office, the joy of having a garbage disposal for the first time, the glories of the American motel. Even so, I
would like to think that they chart a sort of progress, from being bewildered and often actively appalled in
the early days of my return to being bewildered and generally charmed, impressed, and gratified now.
(Bewilderment, you'll note, is something of a constant in my life, wherever I live.) The upshot is that I am
very glad to be here. I hope that what follows makes that abundantly clear.
These pieces were written in the first instance for a British readership and of necessity included chunks of
explication that an American would find unnecessary-what a drive-through window is exactly, how the
postseason playoffs work in baseball, who Herbert Hoover was, that sort of thing. I have endeavored to
excise these intrusions discreetly throughout, though just occasionally the drift of the text made such
adjustments impossible. I apologize for that, and for any other oversights that may have slipped through.
In addition to Simon Kelner, I wish to express my sincere and lasting thanks to Bill Shinker, Patrick
Janson-Smith, John Sterling, Luke Dempsey, and Jed Mattes, to each of whom I am variously and deeply
indebted, and, above all-way above all-to my dear, long-suffering wife and children for so graciously and
sportingly letting me drag them into all this.
And a special thanks to little Jimmy, whoever he may be.
COMING HOME
I once joked in a book that there are three things you can't do in life. You can't beat the phone company,
you can't make a waiter see you until he is ready to see you, and you can't go home again. Since the spring
of 1995, I have been quietly, even gamely, reassessing point number three.
In May of that year, after nearly two decades in England, I moved back to the United States with my
English wife and four children. We settled in Hanover, New Hampshire, for no other reason than that it
seemed an awfully nice place. Founded in 1761, it is a friendly, well-ordered, prettily steepled community
with a big central green, an old-fashioned Main Street, and a rich and prestigious university, Dartmouth
College, whose benignly dominant presence gives the town a backdrop of graceful buildings, an air of
privileged endeavor, and the presence of five thousand students, not one of whom can be trusted to cross a
road in safety. With this came other attractions-good schools, an excellent bookstore and library, a
venerable movie theater (The Nugget, founded in 1916), a good choice of restaurants, and a convivial bar
called Murphy's. Helplessly beguiled, we bought a house near the center of town and moved in.
Coming back to your native land after an absence of many years is a surprisingly unsettling business, a
little like waking from a long coma. Time, you discover, has wrought changes that leave you feeling mildly
foolish and out of touch. You proffer hopelessly inadequate sums when making small purchases. You
puzzle over ATM machines and automated gas pumps and pay phones, and are astounded to discover, by
means of a stern grip on your elbow, that gas station road maps are no longer free.
In my case, the problem was intensified by the fact that I had left as a youth and was returning in middle
age. All those things that you do as an adult-take out mortgages, have children, accumulate pension plans,
take an interest in the state of your guttering-I had only ever done in England. Things like furnaces and
storm windows were, in an American context, the preserve of my father. So finding myself suddenly in
charge of an old New England house, with its mysterious pipes and thermostats, its temperamental garbage
disposal and life-threatening automatic garage door, was both unnerving and rather exhilarating.
It is disconcerting to find yourself so simultaneously in your element and out of it. I can enumerate all
manner of minutiae that mark me out as an American-which of the fifty states has a unicameral legislature,
what a squeeze play is in baseball, who played Captain Kangaroo on TV. I even know about two-thirds of
the words to "The Star-Spangled Banner," which is more than some people know who have sung it
publicly.
But send me to the hardware store and even now I am totally lost. For months I had conversations with the
clerk at our local True-Value that went something like this:
"Hi. I need some of that goopy stuff you fill nail holes in walls with. My wife's people call it Pollyfilla."
"Ah, you mean spackle."
"Very possibly. And I need some of those little plastic things that you use to hold screws in the wall when
you put shelves up. I know them as rawl plugs."
"We call them anchors."
"I shall make a mental note of it."
Really, I could hardly have felt more foreign if I had stood there dressed in lederhosen. All this was a shock
to me. Although I was always very happy in Britain, I never stopped thinking of America as home, in the
fundamental sense of the term. It was where I came from, what I really understood, the base against which
all else was measured.
In a funny way nothing makes you feel more like a native of your own country than to live where nearly
everyone is not. For twenty years, being an American was my defining quality. It was how I was identified,
differentiated. I even got a job on the strength of it once when, in a moment of youthful audacity, I asserted
to a managing editor of the London Times that I would be the only person on his staff who could reliably
spell Cincinnati. (And it was so.)
Happily, there is a flipside to this. The many good things about America also took on a bewitching air of
novelty. I was as dazzled as any newcomer by the famous ease and convenience of daily life, the giddying
abundance of absolutely everything, the boundless friendliness of strangers, the wondrous unfillable
vastness of an American basement, the delight of encountering waitresses and other service providers who
actually seemed to enjoy their work, the curiously giddy-ing notion that ice is not a luxury item and that
rooms can have more than one electrical socket.
As well, there has been the constant, unexpected joy of reencountering all those things I grew up with but
had largely forgotten: baseball on the radio, the deeply satisfying whoing-bang slam of a screen door in
summer, insects that glow, sudden run-for-your-life thunderstorms, really big snowfalls, Thanksgiving and
the Fourth of July, the smell of a skunk from just the distance that you have to sniff the air quizzically and
say: "Is that a skunk?", Jell-O with stuff in it, the pleasingly comical sight of oneself in shorts. All that
counts for a lot, in a strange way.
So, on balance, I was wrong. You can go home again. Just bring extra money for road maps and remember
to ask for spackle.
MAIL CALL
One of the pleasures of living in a small, old-fashioned New England town is that it generally includes a
small, old-fashioned post office. Ours is particularly agreeable. It's in an attractive Federal-style brick
building, confident but not flashy, that looks like a post office ought to. It even smells nice-a combination
of gum adhesive and old central heating turned up a little too high.
The counter employees are always cheerful, helpful and efficient, and pleased to give you an extra piece of
tape if it looks as if your envelope flap might peel open. Moreover, post offices here by and large deal only
with postal matters. They don't concern themselves with pension payments, car tax, TV licenses, lottery
tickets, savings accounts, or any of the hundred and one other things that make a visit to any British post
office such a popular, all-day event and provide a fulfilling and reliable diversion for chatty people who
enjoy nothing so much as a good long hunt in their purses and handbags for exact change. Here there are
never any long lines and you are in and out in minutes.
Best of all, once a year every American post office has a Customer Appreciation Day. Ours was yesterday.
I had never heard of this engaging custom, but I was taken with it immediately. The employees had hung
up banners, put out a long table with a nice checkered cloth, and laid on a generous spread of doughnuts,
pastries, and hot coffee-all of it free.
After twenty years in Britain, this seemed a delightfully improbable notion, the idea of a faceless
government bureaucracy thanking me and my fellow townspeople for our patronage, but I was impressed
and grateful-and, I must say, it was good to be reminded that postal employees are not just mindless
automatons who spend their days mangling letters and whimsically sending my royalty checks to a guy in
Vermont named Bill Bubba but rather are dedicated, highly trained individuals who spend their days
mangling letters and sending my royalty checks to a guy in Vermont named Bill Bubba.
Anyway, I was won over utterly. Now I would hate for you to think that my loyalty with respect to postal
delivery systems can be cheaply bought with a chocolate twirl doughnut and a Styrofoam cup of coffee, but
in fact it can. Much as I admire Britain's Royal Mail, it has never once offered me a morning snack, so I
have to tell you that as I strolled home from my errand, wiping crumbs from my. face, my thoughts toward
American life in general and the U.S. Postal Service in particular were pretty incomparably favorable.
But, as nearly always with government services, it couldn't last. When I got home, the day's mail was on
the mat. There among the usual copious invitations to acquire new credit cards, save a rain forest, become a
life member of the National Incontinence Foundation, add my name (for a small fee) to the Who's Who of
People Named Bill in New England, help the National Rifle Association with its Arm-a-Toddler campaign,
and the scores of other unsought inducements, special offers, and solicitations that arrive each day at every
American home-well, there among this mass was a forlorn and mangled letter that I had sent forty-one days
earlier to a friend in California care of his place of employment and that was now being returned to me
marked "Insufficient Address-Get Real and Try Again" or words to that effect.
At the sight of this I issued a small, despairing sigh, and not merely because I had just sold the U.S. Postal
Service my soul for a doughnut. It happens that I had recently read an article on wordplay in the
Smithsonian magazine in which the author asserted that some puckish soul had once sent a letter addressed,
with playful ambiguity, to
HILL
JOHN
MASS
and it had gotten there after the postal authorities had worked out that it was to be read as "John Underbill,
Andover, Mass." (Get it?)
It's a nice story, and I would truly like to believe it, but the fate of my letter to California seemed to suggest
a need for caution with regard to the postal service and its sleuthing abilities. The problem with my letter
was that I had addressed it to my friend merely "c/o Black Oak Books, Berkeley, California," without a
street name or number because I didn't know either. I appreciate that that is not a complete address, but it is
a lot more explicit than "Hill John Mass" and anyway Black Oak Books is a Berkeley institution. Anyone
who knows the city-and I had assumed in my quaintly naive way that that would include Berkeley postal
authorities-would know Black Oak Books. But evidently not. (Goodness knows, incidentally, what my
letter had been doing'm California for nearly six weeks, though it came back with a nice tan and an urge to
get in touch with its inner feelings.)
Now just to give this plaintive tale a little heartwarming perspective, let me tell you that not long before I
departed from England, the Royal Mail had brought me, within forty-eight hours of its posting in London, a
letter addressed to "Bill Bryson, Writer, Yorkshire Dales," which is a pretty impressive bit of sleuthing.
(And never mind that the correspondent was a trifle off his head.)
So here I am, my affections torn between a postal service that never feeds me but can tackle a challenge
and one that gives me free tape and prompt service but won't help me out when I can't remember a street
name. The lesson to draw from this, of course, is that when you move from one country to another you
have to accept that there are some things that are better and some things that are worse, and there is nothing
you can do about it. That may not be the profoundest of insights to take away from a morning's outing, but I
did get a free doughnut as well, so on balance I guess I'm happy.
Now if you will excuse me I have to drive to Vermont and collect some mail from a Mr. Bubba.
(Some months after this piece was written, I received a letter from England addressed to "Mr. Bill Bryson,
Author of 'A Walk in the Woods,' Lives Somewhere in New Hampshire, America." It arrived without
comment or emendation just five days after it was mailed. My congratulations to the U.S. Postal Service for
an unassailable triumph.)
DRUG CULTURE
Do you know what I really miss about Britain now that I live in America? I miss coming in from the pub
about midnight in a blurry frame of mind and watching Open University on TV.
Now Open University, I should perhaps explain, is a wonderful, wholly commendable institution the
British set up some years ago to provide the chance of a college education to anyone who wants it.
Coursework is done partly at home, partly on campuses, and partly through lectures broadcast on televi-
sion, mostly at odd hours like very early on a Sunday morning or late at night when normal programming
has finished.
The television lectures, which nearly all appear to have been filmed in the early 1970s, typically involve a
geeky-looking academic with lively hair and a curiously misguided dress sense (even by the
accommodating standards of that hallucinogenic age) standing before a blackboard, with perhaps a large
plastic model of a molecule on a table in front of him, saying something totally incomprehensible like:
"However, according to Mersault's theorem, if we apply a small positive charge to the neutrino, the two
free isotopes will be thrown into a reverse gradient orbit, while the captive positive becomes a negative
positron, and vice versa, as we can see in this formula." And then he scribbles one of those complex, mean-
ingless blackboard formulas of the sort that used to feature regularly in New Yorker cartoons.
The reason that Open University lectures traditionally are so popular with postpub crowds is not because
they are interesting, which patently they are not, but because for a long time they were the only thing on
British TV after midnight.
If I were to come in about midnight now mostly what I would find on the TV would be Peter Graves
standing in a trenchcoat talking about unsolved mysteries, the Weather Channel, the fourth hour of an I
Love Lucy extravaganza, at least three channels showing old M*A*S*H episodes, and a small selection of
movies on the premium movie channels mainly involving nubile actresses disporting in the altogether. All
of which is diverting enough in its way, I grant you, but it doesn't begin to compare with the hypnotic
fascination of Open University after six pints of beer. I am quite serious about this.
I'm not at all sure why, but I always found it strangely compelling to turn on the TV late at night and find a
guy who looked as if he had bought all the clothes he would ever need during one shopping trip in 1973 (so
that, presumably, he would be free to spend the rest of his waking hours around oscilloscopes) saying in an
oddly characterless voice, "And so we can see, adding two fixed-end solutions gives us another fixed-end
solution."
Most of the time, I had no idea what these people were talking about-that was a big part of what made it so
compelling somehow-but very occasionally the topic was something I could actually follow and enjoy. I'm
thinking of an unexpectedly diverting lecture I chanced upon some years ago for people working toward a
degree in marketing. The lecture compared the selling of proprietary healthcare products in Britain and the
United States.
The gist of the program was that the same product had to be sold in entirely different ways in the two
markets. An advertisement in Britain for a cold relief capsule, for instance, would promise no more than
that it might make you feel a little better. You would still have a red nose and be in your pajamas, but you
would be smiling again, if wanly. A commercial for the selfsame product in America, however, would
guarantee total, instantaneous relief. A person on the American side of the Atlantic who took this miracle
compound would not only throw off his pj's and get back to work at once, he would feel better than he had
for years and finish the day having the time of his life at a bowling alley.
The drift of all this was that the British don't expect over-the-counter drugs to change their lives, whereas
we Americans will settle for nothing less. The passing of the years has not, it appears, dulled the notion.
You have only to watch any television channel for a few minutes, flip through a magazine, or stroll along
the groaning shelves of any drugstore to realize that people in this counry expect to feel more or less perfect
all the time. Even our household sham