大学生不应该谈恋爱(中英文)

我们大部分还是学生，没有收入，学费都是父母亲提供的。一个 没有经济基础的人， 一个连自己生存问都解决不了的人又有什么资 格去谈情说爱，靠父母的钱去谈情说爱，这和吃喝玩乐有什么区别。 诚然，爱情是不能以金钱来衡量的，但没有金钱你如何来维持一段感 情，友情尚且不可，何况爱情。可见金钱在爱情中的重要性。对于大 学生还处于求学的阶段，消费还不能自给，还想着谈情说爱。当然， 谈恋爱的大学生中也有成功的，但毕竟是极少数。你在大学里读书承 载着父母的对你的巨大期望，你应该将这种期望转化为前进的动力。 如果你把过多的时间放在谈恋爱上就是一种不负责任， 不仅仅是对父 母的不负责，也是对自己的不负责。竞争日益激烈，就业形势越来越 差。大学生要想找到工作，必须要有不可替代的核心竞争力，而这种 竞争力的塑造主要是在大学里。心理学家经测定证明，20-24 岁是人 的一生中学习的最佳年龄段，既是一个人智能发展的全盛时期，又是 为未来事业打基础的关键时期，三四年的大学生活是短暂而宝贵的， 年轻的大学生们切莫把黄金时间消磨在卿卿我我之中， 而应立志奋发 成才，待到功成名就时，天涯何处无芳草。 大学生每年的死亡率是 1.97% ， 而九成是自杀， 七成是因情而 轻生，这个比例远高于社会上因情自杀的比率，这我就想问，能说大 学生承受得了爱的压力吗？我们上大学的主要目的还是学习。 大学谈 恋爱的潮流，浪费金钱精力时间。也许，初恋者不赞同我的意见，但 是过来人不会否定我的说法。爱情是一种情感。既然是情感便不能压 抑，问题是已经没有人因为爱所以爱了，需谨慎地考虑其它因素。 Most of our students, no income, tuition is provided by the parents. A no economic basis, a company's own survival can not solve the problem what people eligible to be concerned with love and romance, depend on their parents for money to be concerned with love and romance, and what is the difference between the idle away in seeking pleasure. Indeed, love is not measured in terms of money, but without money you how to maintain a sense of affection, friendship and love have not. Visible in the importance of money in love. The students still in study stage, consumer also cannot self-sufficient, also think of be concerned with love and romance. Of course, the university students fall in love was successful, but after all, is one of the very few. You will study in the University bearing his parents for your great expectations, you should take it into forward momentum expectation. If you spend too much time on fall in love is a kind of responsibility, not only for the parent is not responsible for, is also not responsible for their own. The increasingly fierce competition, the employment situation is getting worse. College student to find a job, must have an irreplaceable core competitiveness, the competitiveness is mainly in the university. Psychologists prove by determination of 20-24 years, human life is the best age, is a personal development for Smart 's heyday, but also for the future career playing the crucial period of the foundation, three or four years of university life is short and precious, young college students do not prime time spent in whispers of love, and should be determined become hard, to achieve success and win recognition, plenty of fish in the sea. College Students' annual mortality rate is 1.97%, while the nine is a Dutch act, 70% for passion and suicide, this ratio is much higher than the social situation as the ratio of the Dutch act, I would like to ask, can say the students bear love pressure? Our main purpose is to study at university. The trend of University fall in love, waste of money, energy and time. Maybe, love does not agree with my opinion, but did not deny me. Love is a feeling. Since it is the emotion will not suppress, the problem is no one love because of love, need to carefully consider other factors. 两个人恋爱，时间上肯定就会要相互的牺牲一下；肯定是会分散 自己的一部分的精力；肯定大多数的同学来讲，和大家在一起共处的 时间就会减少，有很多锻炼自己能力的机会都会失去。 如果有人谈恋爱了， 那么他身边的人很快就会在短期内找到自己 的心上人， 好像在攀比，那么这样的爱情，牢靠吗？如果提倡谈恋爱, 这样的话,是不是有损校容,来校的人们包括你们的父母来到这个学校 是不是很惊讶!什么以书育人的学校!纯属以情育人.真是校不是校了！ 是不是有点像婚姻介绍所了！ 中国青年政治学院青年发展研究院首次公布了他们在北京地区 的“大学生公众形象调查” 。仅有 11.2％的调查对象认为大学生谈恋 爱是出于真诚相爱。我们的心理还没有成熟，你确认你能承受失败 吗？而且， 失败就仅仅是失败吗？失败之后我们会有很长时间不能从 阴影中走出，甚至有的人再也走不出。看看失恋的人的种种表现吧， 你们都懂的，难道我们能避免这种事情的发生吗？ 在某一处属于你的秘密地方，你曾立下誓要好好学习之后，遗憾 忘记自己来上大学的意义？还是在大学要毕业时找不到工作而遗憾 自己曾将太多的时间用来谈恋爱？是否会在父母期盼的眼神下遗憾 太多的不应该？当我们踌躇是不是应该找个恋人以满足我们的心理 需要时，我们的心理本身已经变的猥琐不可礼遇，我们不知道在同一 片蓝天下还有挣扎在贫困线上的同胞！ 大学生恋爱存在的问题 1、荒废学业 2、恋爱动机不端正 3、搞多角恋 Two person, time would be sure to mutual sacrifice; are sure to disperse a portion of their own energy; sure most students, and we in together time will reduce, have much opportunity to exercise their skills will be lost. If someone fall in love, then everyone around him quickly in the short term to find his sweetheart, like in the competition, so this love, reliable? If advocate fall in love, so, is it right? Lossy school environment, school people including your parents come to the school is it right? Surprised! What the book educating school! Is with affection education . What school is not a school! Is it right? Like introduction by marriage! China Youth University for Political Science Youth Development Research Institute published for the first time they in the Beijing region of the " public image of the Chinese University Students survey ". Only 11.2% of respondents think that college students love is sincere love. Our mind is not yet mature, are you sure you can afford to fail? Moreover, failure is simply failure? After the defeat we would have a very long time cannot emerge from the shadows, even some people never go out. Have a look of lovelorn people behave, you know, can't we avoid such things happen? At one point to your secret place, you have made a vow to study hard, sorry forget yourself to the university? Or in the university to graduate to find a job and regret that I had too much time to fall in love? Whether the expectations of parents in the eyes too much regret should not? When we stumble is it right? Should find a lover to meet our psychological need, our mental itself has become insignificant no courtesy, we do not know in the same sky and struggling on the poverty line compatriots! College students problems in 1, abandoned their studies 2, motivation of love is not correct, to 3 corners of love 爱 4、失恋后难以自拔 爱后果不负责 两个人在寻求恋爱的道路上彼此勉励，彼此帮助。我想说这是一 个非常好的想法。 然而只是一个好的想法而已。 彼此勉励， 彼此帮助。 那我们不去谈恋爱，做一般的弟兄姊妹一样可以啊。恋爱不应该以这 样的目的去谈，而神祝福的真正的爱情，你却一定可以在恋爱的过程 中享受到。 毛主席语录第三十八章第五节第二十七句——不以结婚为 目的的恋爱都是耍流氓。爱不只一个字，爱是一种责任，爱是一种付 出，爱是一种等待，爱是一个盟约。 在人生的各个阶段做好该完成的事情才能使人生更加丰富充实 有意义.大学生发奋发图强吧,事业爱情双丰收定在我们奋斗后的明 天。 5、浪费了不是自己挣来的钱 4, love is hard extricate oneself love the consequences of not responsible for two people in search of love on the road to encourage each other, help each other. I would like to say that this is a very good idea. However, just a good idea. And encourage each other, help each other. That we don't fall in love, do general brothers and sisters can ah. Love should not take this kind of purpose to talk, and God bless the true love, but you can certainly in love to enjoy the process of. Quotations from Chairman Mao thirty-eighth chapter fifth section twenty-seventh sentence -- not to marry for the purpose of love is a sham. Love is not a word, love is a kind of responsibility, love is a kind of pay, what is love, love is a covenant. In each stage of life to do the task to make life more rich and meaningful. Students send make efforts, the cause of love harvest in our struggle after tomorrow. 5, wasted not the money they earn 其实这是理想化的爱情观，在真正的生活中你会发现，现实中的爱情并没有你所期待的那么美好。 In fact, this is the ideal love view, in real life you'll find out, real love is not what you look so beautiful. 持不利观点的人则认为大学生在校期间恋爱，一则过早地进入两人世界，精力过于分散，不利于上进心的培养，会严重影响双方的学业；二则大学生在恋爱过程中矛盾多，挫折大，往往很难把握准确适度。大学生虽然生理上已经成熟，但在心理发展上存在着不均衡性，情绪波动较大，易感情用事，而一旦失恋，如果得不到合理的情绪疏导，后果不堪设想；三则正在恋爱中的大学生，人际交往的指向性很强，往往与原来的伙伴疏远，甚至脱离集体，造成同学间的隔阂而影响团结，对集体的责任感也被男女之情所代替，既不利于个人角色的塑造和成长，也不利于集体的发展；就业的趋向也是一直困绕恋爱中的大学生的敏感问题，虽然在口头上表示“只在乎曾经拥有，不在乎天长地久”，而一但劳燕分飞各西东，又岂是毕业时一句“Bye-Bye”，就能了结的！ A negative view of people think that college students love, a prematurely into two of the world, the energy is too dispersive, not conducive to the ambition of the culture, can seriously affect both academic; two college students in the process of love contradictions, setbacks, it is often difficult to grasp the accurate and appropriate. Although the students physically mature, but in the process of psychological development are not balanced, emotional fluctuations, easy to give oneself over to blind emotions, and once the romance, if not a reasonable emotional counseling, consequences be unbearable to contemplate; three are in love students, interpersonal refers to a very strong, often with the original partner alienation, even from the collective, causing the gap between students of solidarity, collective sense of responsibility has been replaced by affection, which is not conducive to personal role shaping and development, is not conducive to the collective development; employment trend also is in love has been bothering students sensitive issues, although in the verbal representation " only care to have, do not care about the enduring as the universe ", but be like birds flying in different directions and the East, and it is from a sentence "Bye-Bye ", would be the end of the! 爱情在现实的世界里面临着各种矛盾，并不是单纯的所谓的“爱”。爱是责任，爱是尊重。人只有认识对方，才能尊重对方。爱情是"我爱，因为我被人爱"。成熟的爱情是"我被人爱，因为我爱人"；不成熟的爱是"我爱你，因为我需要你；"成熟的爱是"我需要你，因为我爱你。" Love in the real world is faced with all kinds of contradictions, and not simply called " love ". Love is the responsibility of love, respect. People only know each other, to respect each other. Love is " I love, because I loved ". Mature love is "I love u, because I love"; immature love says " I love you, I need you "; " mature love is I need you, because I love you. " 所以，我认为大学生恋爱仍是弊大于利。心理学家经测定证明，20-24岁是人的一生中学习的最佳年龄段，大学生在校以至毕业后的几年，既是一个人智能发展的全盛时期，又是为未来事业打基础的关键时期，三四年的大学生活是短暂而宝贵的，年轻的大学生们切莫把黄金时间消磨在卿卿我我之中，而应立志奋发成才，待到功成名就时，天涯何处无芳草。 So, I think that college students love still do more harm than good. Psychologists prove by determination of 20-24 years, human life is the best age, students in school and after graduation years, is a personal development for Smart 's heyday, but also for the future career playing the crucial period of the foundation, three or four years of university life is short and precious, young college students do not prime time spent in whispers of love, but should aspire to become hard, to achieve success and win recognition, plenty of fish in the sea. 恋爱是指结交一位特别的异性朋友，并与他／她有亲密来往。什么时候可以开始谈恋爱？简单的原则是：当你有了结婚的打算，同时又具备了相当的结婚条件之时。 Love means making a special friends of the opposite sex, and he / she is intimate contact. When can you begin to fall in love? The principle is simple: if you had plans to marry, at the same time also have a considerable marriage conditions of. 结婚条件是指人在生理上、心理上、经济上和作决定上都能独立、成熟，不需倚赖父母。（参创二24） The conditions of marriage refers to human physiology, psychology, economy and make decisions are independent, mature, do not need to rely on parents. ( see Genesis two 24) 因此，人在求学阶段并不适宜谈恋爱，笔者从以下四点来谈为何不宜。 Therefore, in the study period is not suitable to fall in love, the author from the following four points to talk about why not. 1、青少年对婚姻的认识不够：一般青少年交往异性并不期待什么结局，通常只止于“好印象”“喜欢”而已，无法了解爱的真谛。爱要付出、牺牲、要为对方“委身一人”负责，而这些都是青少年心有余而力不足的。对谈恋爱的最终目的“结婚”而言，青少年尚不够成熟，不够认识神设立婚姻家庭的意义，不明白为伴侣寻求神的引导有哪些条件和装备 1, teen marriage is not enough awareness: the general adolescent interaction does not expect any ending, usually ending in " good impression " " love " only, can not understand the true meaning of love. Love, sacrifice, to pay for each other " commitment to a " responsible, and these are adolescents a well-meaning but ineffectual. Talk about the ultimate goal of love " marriage ", youth is not mature enough to know God, the establishment of marriage and family, don't understand partner seeking God's guidance which conditions and equipment 2、青少年仍在成长： In 2, still in the growth of teenagers: A、感情不稳定，也不够成熟负责，对恋爱憧憬多于理智，很容易彼此伤害。 A, emotional instability, is also not mature enough for love, the longing than sense, is easy to hurt each other. B、思想转变很快，当时认为理想的异性朋友，可能过一段时间就没有兴趣了， B, ideological change quickly, then considered an ideal friend, probably over a period of time is not interested, C、情绪起伏不定，连自己都掌握不住，一见钟情往往悲剧收场。 C, mood swings, even their own can not have fall in love at first sight, often ended in tragedy. 3、恋爱途中变化多：青少年的年龄、学业、经济能力……等，都还不到结婚的时间，一旦进入恋爱，婚期遥远，如何经得起恋爱途中各样的变化？情绪的、时间的、离别的、情欲的、第三者出现、家长的反对等等的考验？ 3, love way changes: adolescent age, academic, economic ability ... ... Wait, did not yet time to get married, once in love, marriage was distant, how to stand the way love variety? Mood, time, parting, passion, third appeared, parental disapproval of the test? 4、没有建立家庭的基础和条件 4, no building family foundation and condition 主观上认为爱情与学业并不冲突。调查结果表明大多数学生能够正确看待学业与爱情的关系，他们赞成大学阶段应该以学业为主，爱情应当服从学业。同时他们又渴望自己可以爱情学业两不误，认为自己有能力处理好这两者的关系。但从个案和访谈中可以发现，这只是学生们的主观愿望，实际上真正可以做到的并不多。有句俗语叫做“爱情让人变笨”，特别是那些情窦初开的学生，很容易被强烈的情感冲昏了头脑，感情与理智的天平不由自主地就倾斜了。 Subjective thought of love and education do not conflict. The investigation result shows that most students can correctly treat the relationship between love and study, they favor the university stage should be to study, love should obey school. At the same time they desire you can love school two no mistake, thinks he has the ability to handle the relationship between the two. But from the case study and interview can be found, it is the students' subjective desire, actually can do much. There is a saying called " love makes people stupid ", especially those of the students first awakening interest in the opposite sex, easily be strong emotional head, heart and mind can't help to tilt the balance. 很多弟兄姊妹会出于这样的动机去谈恋爱：找个姊妹谈恋爱。为什么?因为可以两个人在寻求主的道路上彼此勉励，彼此帮助。哦，我想说这是一个非常好的想法。然而只是一个好的想法而已。彼此勉励，彼此帮助我们不去谈恋爱，做一般的弟兄姊妹一样可以啊。恋爱不应该以这样的目的去谈，而神祝福的真正的爱情，你却一定可以在恋爱的过程中享受到。有时，我们把爱情看得太简单太美好了。然而恋爱需要真实地去考量到将来真正每天一起生活，一起吃喝，这些生活与文化中相斥的事务，是不是会导致争吵？举个例子，我们看到杨过和小龙女“从此幸福的生活在一起后。”(童话中经常出现的一句话)有一天，小龙女会不会和杨过这样说：“过儿,现在金轮法王也改邪归正了，我也不是什么古墓派掌门了，经济不景气，我们收入又不多，你这雕兄每餐都要四斤牛肉五斤白干，我们仅仅拿它做交通工具，这样太奢侈了，我们让它重归大自然吧。”而杨过就会说雕怎么跟他出生入死……然后,他们两人就吵架再冷战……是的，也许这只是一个笑话，真实生活中的许多事情的确需要我们考量。面包要我们去赚，牛奶也须我们用汗水换取。 Many brothers and sisters will such a motive to fall in love: a sister fall in love. Why? Because two people in seeking the way of the Lord and encourage each other, help each other. Oh, I want to say this is a very good idea. However, just a good idea. And encourage each other, help each other and we don't fall in love, do general brothers and sisters can ah. Love should not with such purpose to talk, and God bless the true love, but you can certainly in love to enjoy the process of. Sometimes, the love we see too simple too good. Love needs to consider the future real real life together every day, eat and drink, the life and culture of repulsion of the transaction, is it right? Leads to an argument? For example, we see Yang Guo and Helen of Troy " from happy life together. " (fairy tales often appears in the sentence ) one day, Helen of Troy will and Yang Guo said: " son, now King Jinlun will forsake heresy and return to the truth, I'm not ancient tomb sect leader, the economic downturn, our income is not much, you this sculpture brother every meal four kg of beef five kg of dry, we just take it as the traffic tool, it's very extravagant, we let it back to nature. " And Yang Guo would say how he carved to go through fire and water ... ... Then, two of them started a fight and the cold war ... ... Yes, maybe it was just a joke, in real life many things indeed we need to consider. Should we go to earn bread, milk must be our sweat in exchange for. 在整个寻求伴侣的过程中，等待是辛苦的，但是为了拥有合神心意伴侣的那一刻，所有的等待都值得。男女的交往，是一门永远学习不完的学问。在整个过程中，即使是一场合神心意的恋爱，仍然会有许多意料不到的事情发生，需要双方不断的调适，一起去解决，一起来成长。 In the process of seeking partners, waiting is hard, but to have God partner at the moment, all the waiting is worth. Men's and women's contact, is a never learn the knowledge. Throughout the process, even if it is a god of love, there will still be many unexpected things happen, both sides need to constantly adjust, together to solve, to grow. 爱不只一个字，爱是一种责任，爱是一种付出，爱是一种等待，爱是一个盟约。而这些，是一个大学生能承受的吗？ Love is not a word, love is a kind of responsibility, love is a kind of pay, what is love, love is a covenant. But these, as a college student can afford? 反方： The: 我们谈论的是利大于弊还是弊大于利，并不是谈论大学生应不应该谈恋爱，而且根据可靠资料统计大学生谈恋爱的失败率是99%，大多数大学生的心理素质尚未成熟，面对失败的打击，又有多少能够马上振作起来，更多的是长时间的一撅不正，从而浪费了许多宝贵的学习时间！反方： We're talking about is benefit is more than fraud or do more harm than good, and not talk about college students should should not fall in love, but according to reliable statistics students fall in love failure rate was 99%, most of the college students' psychological quality is not yet mature, against the face of failure, and how much can immediately perk up, more of a long time. Stick it, thereby wasting a lot of valuable learning time! The: 如果按照正方辩友说的利大于弊的话,那么学校是不是应该提倡谈恋爱,这样的话,是不是有损校容,来校的人们包括你们的父母来到这个学校是不是很惊讶!!好呀,什么以书育人的学校!!纯属以情育人.真是校将不校啦!!!是不是有点像婚姻介绍所啦?有些人尽然利用大半个小时,擦一双皮鞋,什么"皮鞋不亮,爱情没有方向"真是谎谬可极啊!!这些时间用来学习多好啊!正方： If the affirmative say the advantages outweigh the disadvantages, so the school is it right? Should advocate fall in love, so, is it right? Lossy school environment, school people including your parents come to the school is it right? Surprised!! well, what with the book educating school!! is to love yo . What school will not school!!! Is it right? Something like a marriage agency? Some people really use a half an hour, one pair of shoes, what " leather shoes is not bright, love has no orientation " is really ridiculous can ah!! the time to learn more! Affirmative: 法国著名作家雨果曾说过，人生有两次出生：头一次是在开始生活的那一天；第二次，则是在萌发爱情的那一天。伴随着青春的脚步，爱情会悄悄降临到青年人身边，随着性心理的成熟，对爱情的欲望与追求，自然会在大学生的内心萌芽。 大学时代，是一代骄子的黄金时代。在这个季节里，青春的萌动使他们开始涉足于另一个领域——爱苑。初恋，是一场情感世界的巨变，生活结构的革命，伦理意识的更新。从个体发展的角度来看，恋爱对青年心理的成熟健全有很大的促进作用。 The famous French writer Victor Hugo once said, life is a two birth: first is at the beginning of life that day; second, is in the germination of love that day. Accompanied by the footsteps of youth, love will come quietly to the youth side, with the psychological maturity, desire and pursuit for love, will naturally in college students' inner bud. University of the times, is the generation of the golden age of proud. In this season, the youth starting so that they began to get involved in another field -- love garden. Love, is a feeling in the world change, life structure's revolution, ethical consciousness updates. From the individual perspective, love on the youth psychology mature have great role in promoting. 首先，恋爱是青年释放日益强烈的性冲动的重要途径。通过恋爱接触异性，使青年不再感觉到性的压抑紧张。其次，性意识的发展必须经过恋爱阶段才能完善。性同一性的建立也要通过恋爱。而且，恋爱对青年的意义还不止于此。因为恋爱是两个人人格的深层接触。在此过程中，青年的自我概念受到对方的影响而发展，真正懂得了如何在保持自身独立性的前提下调整自身缺陷以适应对方。也就是说，经过了恋爱。恋爱对一些个性因素和社会情感的发展有重大意义。而且恋爱中两人的深层交往为提高青年交际能力，适应以后的社会打下了基础。难怪有些心理学家认为，恋爱是青春晚期和成年早期最重要的事件，只有经过了恋爱，人才会真正成熟起来。 First of all, love is the young release increasingly strong impulsive important way. Love through contact with the opposite sex, make young people no longer feel the oppression of tension. Secondly, the consciousness of development must pass through stage to perfect love. Sex identity establishment also through love. But, love for the youth significance is more than this. Because love is two personal deep contact. In this process, the Youth Self Concept influenced by one another and development, to understand how to maintain its independence under the premise of its adjustment to adapt to each other. That is to say, after love. Love to some personality factors and social emotional development is of great significance. But love two people deep communication to improve the communicative competence of youth, adapt to the future society to lay a foundation. No wonder some psychologists say, love is the late adolescence and early adulthood is the most important event, only through love, people will truly mature. 大学生谈恋爱的是利是弊，在弄清这个前应先明白什么是恋爱。在同学这间的谈话中，得知在他们眼里爱情是洗衣服，逛街，还有花钱花时间，我觉得这在一定程度上代表了当代大学生的爱情观吧。孰不知生命诚可贵，爱情价更高呀！很显然，在如今爱情已被误解。爱情并不是衣服逛街花钱花时间，难道孟姜女哭长城是为了叫她丈夫陪她逛街吗？ College students fall in love is good or bad, on the front should first understand what is love. In class this conversation, that in the eyes of their love is washing clothes, shopping, and spend time and money, I think this to some extent represents the contemporary college students' Outlook on love. What does not know the life honest valuable, love price is higher! Obviously, now in love has been misunderstood. Love is not the clothes shopping spend time and money, Meng Jiangnu is crying to the Great Wall to ask her husband to accompany her to go shopping? 爱情是一种情感，是用心去投入，是自己身上的一部分。爱情更多的是付出和责任。更难受的是，所有同学们认为利弊的关键，是谈恋爱对自己是否有用？判断利弊的标准并不是是否对己有用。爱情是一种情感。既然是情感便不能压抑，问题是已经没有人因为爱所以爱了，都是过多的考虑其它因素。 Love is an emotion, t