[学会说“不”,利人利己] 英语写作

[学会说“不”,利人利己] 英语写作 The Power Of Saying No We've all had times when we say yes to someone but really want to say no. It's often difficult to say no because of the desire to be loved: we want to be helpful, we want to show we care, but we may have little to give, are tired, overworked, or need alone time. Do you feel that if you aren't there for someone, they may reject you? Or that you're somehow obliged to help as it makes you a good person, parent or friend? Do you ever feel validated by being needed ? It's easy to believe that any time you take to relax or meditate is time that could be used elsewhere. But taking time out doesn't mean it is selfish or even wasted time. Think about what happens when your day is spent constantly caring for others. Do you get resentful, irritated, or even angry? Do you find stress building up? Does the quality of care that you offer become affected by that inner tension? Or are you so used to being this way that it seems impossible to imagine beingany other way? You may even think you're not the relaxing type, or that if you do relax you won't be able to cope with all the things you have to do. However, by taking time for yourself, by lowering your blood pressure and releasing stress, you are immediately creating a more harmonious environment that can only benefit all those around you. When you take time out to be quiet it means you don't get so angry, resentful, or frustrated; instead, you connect with who you really are. Then what you share with others is coming from that peaceful space. When you are energized and feeling good you will be able to do far more than if you are dragging yourself through your day with little energy or in a bad mood. So, rather than being selfish, such activity is actually the least selfish thing you could do! This is when saying no to others means you are affirming yourself. The power of saying no is that you are empowered! 学会说“不”，利人利己 我们有时都会言不由衷答应别人。 由于渴望受别人喜爱，通常很难说不:我们想有助于他人。我们想要表示我们的关心，但我们可能没有什么可给予的，因而感觉烦恼，身心疲惫，或需要独处一段时间。你是否觉得如果你不迎合别人，他们就可能拒绝你吗,或你勉为其难被迫援手，因为这才能让你成为一个好人，好父母或好朋友,你是否感到真正被他人所需吗,人们易于认为用以放松或冥想的时间都可用于其他方面。但抽出时间并不意味着是自私甚至浪费时间。想想你把自己的一整天都用来照顾别人会是怎么样。你会愤愤不平，烦躁，甚至生气吗,你是否觉得压力越来越大吗,你给予关心的质量会受到内在紧张情绪的影响吗,或者你是如此习惯于这种方式，似乎不可能想象到其他的出路吗,你甚至可能认为自己不是那种洒脱类型的人，或者说，如果你真正放松下来，就无法应付所有你必须做的事情。 然而，通过给自己时间，降低你的血压和释放压力，你即刻就会营造出一个更加和谐的环境，只能你周围的所有人更加受益。当你拿出时间来安静一下，这就意味着你不再那么生气，愤愤不平，或沮丧;相反 你这才成为真正的自我。然后你与他人共享的东西都是来自那种平和的心境。当你精力充沛并感觉良好时，你能够做的事远远超过你一天没有活力或心情不好，强己所能而做的一切。 所以，这种行为不是自私，而实际上是你可以去做的最不自私的事!这就是说当你对别人说“不”，那也就意味着你对自己的肯定。说“不”的益处是让你获得更大能量!