薛宝钗和林黛玉谁比较可爱

薛宝钗和林黛玉谁比较可爱 薛宝钗和林黛玉谁比较可爱(这篇吴淡如文章深得我心) 作者:透明的蜻蜓 联系作者2010-02-24 23:06:58 《红楼梦》是历代小说中，最能深刻描写女人性格的一本书。 曹雪芹为什么写红楼梦,他自己开门见山的说，那是因为他混到这个年纪，风尘碌碌，一事无成，在感慨之余，忽然想到过去认识的那些女子，仔细想来，那些女子的才华见识和行事风格，样样比他强。 凭着这么一个念旧的动机。所以，他完成了七八十万字的《红楼梦》。 随着他巨细靡遗的描述，随着他的文采铺陈，那些女子，一个一个神灵活现的在白纸黑字上活过来，牵动着百年来读者的细腻心思。 红楼女子最可爱的地方，在于她们都像真人。像真人，不是「完人」，无意为读者树立一个完美的标竿和模范，所以各有各的优点，也都各有缺点。 她们的优点没好到要人歌功颂德的地步，她们的缺点也没糟到十恶不赦的地步。她们不像忠孝节义到惊天地泣鬼神的王宝钏，也不像童话里一路坏下去的巫婆，她们有人性,,我们几乎感受得到她们的喜怒哀乐，甚至也可以在我们生活周遭中找到一个「差不多」那种个性的人，尽管我们和她们的时dai(不知道为什么，佳缘不允许用这个词，到底敏感在哪啊,不明白。为了尊重原文以拼音代替)不同，环境也不一样。 谈起《红楼梦》中的女子，第一顺位的女主角，就是林黛玉和薛宝钗。红楼梦迷们，总分成「拥林」和「拥薛」两派。曾有这样的记载:清朝两个文人朋友，谈起《红楼梦》来，一个拥林，说薛宝钗奸诈，一个拥薛，说林黛玉尖酸，两人一言不合，竟然打了起来，还要旁观者劝架才分得开。 听起来是个笑话，不过是小说嘛，青菜萝卜各有所好，何必认真到这个地步呢,但两个小说中人物，能令爱书中人爱到如此痴狂，也算是个佳话了。这种魅力，可是其它的小说人物很难匹敌的，不是吗,就算是看三国演义好了，没有人会为拥戴曹操或刘备打架，也没有人会为支持周瑜或诸葛亮闹得不开心。 被文人「旗鼓相当」拥护的真人是有的，但也只有李白和杜甫了。尽管李杜生前算是精神上的知己，为了拥李或拥杜，历代总有些文人吵吵闹闹。喜欢这个，就批评那个，非要定出个胜负不可。 论优劣其实不必，只是个人偏好不同而已。就像唐诗不可能没有李白或杜甫，《红楼梦》里也不能没有黛玉或宝钗，少了谁，都不会精采。 她们也许是曾经在作者早年记忆中出现的两个个性迥异的女子，在小说中，也是一个很好的对照组，「木石前盟」会领先，还是「金玉良缘」够实力,这个obstacles, correcting misunderstandings, advocate good cadre style. 2, adhere to the scientific decision-making and democratic decision-making decision-making law. Correctly handle to ensure that government decrees and based on the actual creative work, giving full play to subjective initiative, put an end to implement the conference meeting, to document the implementation of documents etc. Improve the scientific and democratic decision-making mechanism, improve and implement the decision to solicit the views of experts, the public hearing system. Improve the important decision of risk assessment mechanism and legal review mechanism. 3, to promote team unity. Uphold and improve the system of annual party book talk heart to heart, mind and Party members, Party members to exchange each other not less than 2 times. The implementation of sound team democratic life system, consolidate and enhance the party's mass line educational practice will promote the achievement of the topic of democratic life, criticism and self-criticism normalization, a long-term. Adhere to the party on the basis of the principle of unity, enhance internal communication, strengthen internal supervision, self Sleep maintenance team collective image and authority. (three) to ensure the execution is not strong or disguised to resist government decrees issues. Individual Bureau leadership team members lack of learning political theory system, not from the objective reality, not with the party's interests above all the principles to deal with personal problems. In the specific work safety supervision in the execution is not strong, in the implementation of the decision to deploy the discount, make choices, engage in work, the implementation of the agreement, uncomfortable is not performed, open or disguised to resist, the lack of subject consciousness of the party organization, the lack of resist in society all kinds of bad habits and unwholesome tendencies of courage Gas and courage. Such as the liability insurance of safe production work, individual leaders that have someone arrested, and no funding, not in the global chess perspective to the countryside to carry out daily inspection, found none of my business acceptance of the resumption of production in an armchair, with a pen, indifferent. Corrective measures: (LED Leadership: Luo Mingjun, rectification time: before September 25th, insist for a long time) 1, to strengthen the sense of responsibility, work to solve the lack of decent occupation explain away, conduct problems. To establish the overall concept, eliminate departmentalism. Strict assessment and accountability, to solve the spiritual slack, nianqingpazhong, status quo, To establish and perfect the muddle along and other issues. Bureau staff conduct work regulations, standardize the behavior of personnel. 2, strengthen the responsibility system. One is the in-depth study and implement the "Hunan provincial Party and government leading cadres Interim Provisions on the work safety of a pair of > (Hunan Office issued 2013 No. 伏笔一直是《红楼梦》的主线故事，引领许多读者穿越大观园里的流水帐寻觅下去。 从EQ来看林黛玉，恐怕人人都会觉得，她的缺点比优点多。 她的气量确实小。气量怎么小呢,写她气量狭窄的例子都很生动:比如，薛宝钗的母亲，托个管家送宫花给住在贾府的姐妹们，送花人顺路送了过去，最后才送到黛玉的住处(因为她是住得最远的)。别的姑娘拿了宫花，好歹会跟送花的管家说声谢，她偏偏要拐弯抹角的问:「只送我一个,还是大家都有。」那管家摸不着意思，诚实回答:「大家都有。这两支是姑娘的。」黛玉听了，竟然冷笑道:「我就知道，如果不是别人挑剩下的，也不会拿到我这里来」,,连收到礼物都不开心，这样的女子，确实难讨好。 还有，她也爱自命清高。大观园里养了个戏班子，戏班子里头有个小姑娘，大家都觉得她长得像黛玉，却都知道黛玉小心眼，心照不宣，只有神经最大条的湘云，把实话说了出来，惹得黛玉大大的生了气。只因戏子身分卑微，就不能长得像她,这也太说不过去，换了别人，不过是一笑置之，她却斤斤计较。 她还有些刻薄。刘姥姥为了弄点银两度过荒年，阴错阳差进大观园逗得贾母开心，黛玉却称呼这位老太太「母蝗虫」,,听来让人觉得怪不舒服。 黛玉葬花的桥段，是《红楼梦》中的经典片段，那一幅少女荷锄葬花的画面，确实凄绝美绝。然而，这样的景象背后，藏着的不只是多愁善感的灵魂，还有一颗一个拒绝接受现实的心:连落花陷污泥她都无法忍受，怎么可接受其它种种丑恶, 平日都已经这么小心眼，一碰到感情，当然容不下一粒砂子。不要说砂子，可能连一点灰尘也容不下吧，偏偏大观园里出现了薛宝钗这个大情敌，宝钗身上还戴着个金麒麟的佩饰，和贾宝玉凑合成「金玉良缘」，这件事，使得她如梗在喉，动不动就和宝玉呕气～这样会生闷气的女子，在长辈眼里，怎么可能是好媳妇, 所以她不像薛宝钗一样得到长辈的属意，她的爱情注定是悲剧。 从心理来看林黛玉，自命清高的背后，是自卑在作祟，她自幼丧母，少女时期又丧父，只好投靠外祖母和舅舅，寄人篱下，个性好强的她，为了一点尊严，她把自己弄成了一只纸老hu(不知道为什么，佳缘不允许用这个词，到底敏感在哪啊,不明白。为了尊重原文以拼音代替)。 然而，林黛玉的文学形象却是真诚可爱的。我们看得出，她有心眼，却没心机，她很聪明，却一点也不精明。我们不知不觉像贾宝玉一样爱上她了。不然，我们不会在这个小心眼又有点刻薄的女人吐血焚稿、而「奸人」拿宝钗冒充黛玉嫁给宝玉时，忍不住掩卷叹息，激动的掉下眼泪，心里为她打抱不平，说:怎么可以这样, obstacles, correcting misunderstandings, advocate good cadre style. 2, adhere to the scientific decision-making and democratic decision-making decision-making law. Correctly handle to ensure that government decrees and based on the actual creative work, giving full play to subjective initiative, put an end to implement the conference meeting, to document the implementation of documents etc. Improve the scientific and democratic decision-making mechanism, improve and implement the decision to solicit the views of experts, the public hearing system. Improve the important decision of risk assessment mechanism and legal review mechanism. 3, to promote team unity. Uphold and improve the system of annual party book talk heart to heart, mind and Party members, Party members to exchange each other not less than 2 times. The implementation of sound team democratic life system, consolidate and enhance the party's mass line educational practice will promote the achievement of the topic of democratic life, criticism and self-criticism normalization, a long-term. Adhere to the party on the basis of the principle of unity, enhance internal communication, strengthen internal supervision, self Sleep maintenance team collective image and authority. (three) to ensure the execution is not strong or disguised to resist government decrees issues. Individual Bureau leadership team members lack of learning political theory system, not from the objective reality, not with the party's interests above all the principles to deal with personal problems. In the specific work safety supervision in the execution is not strong, in the implementation of the decision to deploy the discount, make choices, engage in work, the implementation of the agreement, uncomfortable is not performed, open or disguised to resist, the lack of subject consciousness of the party organization, the lack of resist in society all kinds of bad habits and unwholesome tendencies of courage Gas and courage. Such as the liability insurance of safe production work, individual leaders that have someone arrested, and no funding, not in the global chess perspective to the countryside to carry out daily inspection, found none of my business acceptance of the resumption of production in an armchair, with a pen, indifferent. Corrective measures: (LED Leadership: Luo Mingjun, rectification time: before September 25th, insist for a long time) 1, to strengthen the sense of responsibility, work to solve the lack of decent occupation explain away, conduct problems. To establish the overall concept, eliminate departmentalism. Strict assessment and accountability, to solve the spiritual slack, nianqingpazhong, status quo, To establish and perfect the muddle along and other issues. Bureau staff conduct work regulations, standardize the behavior of personnel. 2, strengthen the responsibility system. One is the in-depth study and implement the "Hunan provincial Party and government leading cadres Interim Provisions on the work safety of a pair of > (Hunan Office issued 2013 No. 其实她的缺点也是她的优点。 正因她自视清高，所以她不会劝宝玉好好读八股文读取功名，不是个俗不可耐的家伙(你有没有发现，在历代小说中，她也几乎是唯一一个敢瞧不起功名利禄，不肯尽心尽力鼓励男人考状元的奇女子,)正因为她是个美貌孤傲的少女，所以由她葬起花来不显得矫情;正因她薄命，所以她不必看见面临贾府被抄家时树倒猢狲散的不堪。 在一个封建时dai(不知道为什么，佳缘不允许用这个词，到底敏感在哪啊,不明白。为了尊重原文以拼音代替)，一个女人再有才华，也不过是要嫁个好丈夫，生个好儿子。林黛玉再文质彬彬，也得走这条路，但以她的个性，以她的虚弱的身子，为她安排个完美下场也很牵强，如果你是贾母，恐怕也只要这样的外孙女，不要这样的孙媳妇吧。我们虽然同情她的焚诗手帕，抑郁而亡，心里却又明白，这样也好。 这样也好。你记得金庸小说里的黄蓉吗,有两本金庸武侠小说都写到黄蓉。《大漠英雄传》里的黄蓉，是个心眼好多、鬼灵精怪的少女，让大家好生欢喜，就算她有时手段太狠了些，我们也舍不得怪她;《神鵰侠侣》里头，心眼还是很多，却已是个中年妇人，处处防着杨过，只教人觉得这女人虽然能干，却好生多疑难搞。 两本小说中，黄蓉的性格其实没变，只是年纪变大了。这是人间很不公平的一个通则:美貌少女刁钻很可爱，中年妇女刁钻起来，你却会觉得她嘴脸可憎。人不能越活越老，还「吾道一以贯之」。 林黛玉若嫁给贾宝玉，两人可能要吵一辈子。林黛玉也可能会变成一个宝玉口中最俗的人，不得不为下一顿饭在哪里愁眉苦脸，动不动因为老公流连在脂粉堆里大发脾气，不可能自命清高活下去。 让林黛玉在该出局时出局，是天妒良缘，却也是个巧妙的安排。 《红楼梦》如果写成大团圆剧，那必然是本俗不可耐的小说了。 如果说，林黛玉像文人，薛宝钗就像商人。 黛玉是文人之女，宝钗是富商之女，她们的出身点出了她们的性格。 林黛玉说话酸不溜丢，爱消遣人，薛宝钗却懂和气生财。她也有才华，不输林黛玉，黛玉写的诗意境总是悲苦，宝钗的诗却总是很吉祥如意的，连歌咏柳絮,,一向被视为无根而漂泊的可怜柳絮，都可以被她翻案，写成「万缕千丝终不改，任它随聚随分，韶华休笑本无根，好风凭借力，送我上青云～」 好阳光的一个女人。 obstacles, correcting misunderstandings, advocate good cadre style. 2, adhere to the scientific decision-making and democratic decision-making decision-making law. Correctly handle to ensure that government decrees and based on the actual creative work, giving full play to subjective initiative, put an end to implement the conference meeting, to document the implementation of documents etc. Improve the scientific and democratic decision-making mechanism, improve and implement the decision to solicit the views of experts, the public hearing system. Improve the important decision of risk assessment mechanism and legal review mechanism. 3, to promote team unity. Uphold and improve the system of annual party book talk heart to heart, mind and Party members, Party members to exchange each other not less than 2 times. The implementation of sound team democratic life system, consolidate and enhance the party's mass line educational practice will promote the achievement of the topic of democratic life, criticism and self-criticism normalization, a long-term. Adhere to the party on the basis of the principle of unity, enhance internal communication, strengthen internal supervision, self Sleep maintenance team collective image and authority. (three) to ensure the execution is not strong or disguised to resist government decrees issues. Individual Bureau leadership team members lack of learning political theory system, not from the objective reality, not with the party's interests above all the principles to deal with personal problems. In the specific work safety supervision in the execution is not strong, in the implementation of the decision to deploy the discount, make choices, engage in work, the implementation of the agreement, uncomfortable is not performed, open or disguised to resist, the lack of subject consciousness of the party organization, the lack of resist in society all kinds of bad habits and unwholesome tendencies of courage Gas and courage. Such as the liability insurance of safe production work, individual leaders that have someone arrested, and no funding, not in the global chess perspective to the countryside to carry out daily inspection, found none of my business acceptance of the resumption of production in an armchair, with a pen, indifferent. Corrective measures: (LED Leadership: Luo Mingjun, rectification time: before September 25th, insist for a long time) 1, to strengthen the sense of responsibility, work to solve the lack of decent occupation explain away, conduct problems. To establish the overall concept, eliminate departmentalism. Strict assessment and accountability, to solve the spiritual slack, nianqingpazhong, status quo, To establish and perfect the muddle along and other issues. Bureau staff conduct work regulations, standardize the behavior of personnel. 2, strengthen the responsibility system. One is the in-depth study and implement the "Hunan provincial Party and government leading cadres Interim Provisions on the work safety of a pair of > (Hunan Office issued 2013 No. 她和林黛玉完全不一样，葬花对她而言必然是个笑话。如果没有这个对照组，林黛玉的形象也会失色许多。 林黛玉小心眼，却没心机;薛宝钗气量大，心机却深。在大观园里的薛宝钗，也不过十来岁，就非常懂得做人。会做人到什么地步呢,她分送礼物时，给连贾府里面最惹人嫌的赵姨娘(贾宝玉父亲贾政的侍妾，也是贾环的母亲)都有一份，连赵姨娘都会受宠若惊的想:怪不得人家都说宝丫头好，如果是林丫头，连正眼都不会看我们母子一眼，别说送东西了～ 黛玉说话处处调侃人，宝钗说话却处处为人着想。宝玉跑到母亲王夫人房里和金钏儿调笑了几句，惹得王夫人生气，撵走了金钏儿，金钏儿竟然投井自杀以证明自己无辜。王夫人正为处理金钏儿的自杀感到良心不安时，宝钗可以笑着对王夫人说:「我们都知道您一向是个大善人，所以您才以为她的死跟您有关。我想她不是赌气投井，是井边玩，不小心掉下去的，就算她是生气去投井的，也是个胡涂人，死不足惜～」 说说得好，也说得有理，说完还把自己的新衣服拿去给金钏儿做丧服，帮王夫人一个忙，现出毫不忌讳的气度。这一点，使她深得未来婆婆的欢心。 可是，这样的安慰话可不是一般少女说得出来的。她识大体到了有点无情的地步。黛玉连花谢了都会哭，宝钗连人死了都能冷淡处之。如果你有宝钗这样的朋友，你总会怀疑，她对你好，是否是真感情，还是只是为了证明会做人而已, 一个重情，一个重理。宝黛之争，也是情理之争。 不过，《红楼梦》里，宝黛之争都不是明争，读者看不到惊心动魄的爱情争夺战实况转播。因为宝钗从来不跟黛玉明争，向来都知退让，甚至很懂得收服黛玉的心，最后连黛玉都忏悔自己太多心，认她为知己。 也是「喜欢」与「爱」之争。宝玉爱黛玉，却也喜欢宝钗喜欢得不得了，虽然对林妹妹的挚情铭刻在他心里，但他也应该会很犹豫:如果是宝钗远嫁，他又何尝舍得这个宝姐姐～ 光看大半部的《红楼梦》，宝钗做人几乎毫无瑕疵，宝钗绝对是个,,百分百的人物，然而，她的,,却高到有点无情的地步。在黛玉病入膏肓时，她却可以顶替黛玉嫁给宝玉，虽然说长辈之命难为，但她表现得一点也不迟疑，也就有点让读者心寒了。宝玉曾说，女人婚前都很可爱，像珍珠，婚后却常沾染了男人的气味，变得浑浊起来，变成鱼眼睛，比男人更不可爱，婚后的宝钗就应验了这句话，变成一个只会苦劝丈夫考功名、丈夫只要有一点感伤，她都要大泼冷水的妇人。 虽然说，贾家选这样的媳妇是基于现实考虑的，宝钗也不得不面对现实，但obstacles, correcting misunderstandings, advocate good cadre style. 2, adhere to the scientific decision-making and democratic decision-making decision-making law. Correctly handle to ensure that government decrees and based on the actual creative work, giving full play to subjective initiative, put an end to implement the conference meeting, to document the implementation of documents etc. Improve the scientific and democratic decision-making mechanism, improve and implement the decision to solicit the views of experts, the public hearing system. Improve the important decision of risk assessment mechanism and legal review mechanism. 3, to promote team unity. Uphold and improve the system of annual party book talk heart to heart, mind and Party members, Party members to exchange each other not less than 2 times. The implementation of sound team democratic life system, consolidate and enhance the party's mass line educational practice will promote the achievement of the topic of democratic life, criticism and self-criticism normalization, a long-term. Adhere to the party on the basis of the principle of unity, enhance internal communication, strengthen internal supervision, self Sleep maintenance team collective image and authority. (three) to ensure the execution is not strong or disguised to resist government decrees issues. Individual Bureau leadership team members lack of learning political theory system, not from the objective reality, not with the party's interests above all the principles to deal with personal problems. In the specific work safety supervision in the execution is not strong, in the implementation of the decision to deploy the discount, make choices, engage in work, the implementation of the agreement, uncomfortable is not performed, open or disguised to resist, the lack of subject consciousness of the party organization, the lack of resist in society all kinds of bad habits and unwholesome tendencies of courage Gas and courage. Such as the liability insurance of safe production work, individual leaders that have someone arrested, and no funding, not in the global chess perspective to the countryside to carry out daily inspection, found none of my business acceptance of the resumption of production in an armchair, with a pen, indifferent. Corrective measures: (LED Leadership: Luo Mingjun, rectification time: before September 25th, insist for a long time) 1, to strengthen the sense of responsibility, work to solve the lack of decent occupation explain away, conduct problems. To establish the overall concept, eliminate departmentalism. Strict assessment and accountability, to solve the spiritual slack, nianqingpazhong, status quo, To establish and perfect the muddle along and other issues. Bureau staff conduct work regulations, standardize the behavior of personnel. 2, strengthen the responsibility system. One is the in-depth study and implement the "Hunan provincial Party and government leading cadres Interim Provisions on the work safety of a pair of > (Hunan Office issued 2013 No. 一场崇尚性灵的红楼梦，在这个时候，已是梦醒时刻，也是曲终人散的时刻。宝钗虽然得到「宝二奶奶」的头衔，却没法戴上光芒万丈的胜利冠冕，因为贾家和薛家，都已经变成王谢堂前燕，不可能再回复往日荣光。宝玉为了交代，留下一个后代，考上一个功名，然后便出家了。 宝黛之争，宝钗的胜利并不风光。赢得是翻脸无情的命运。 一个死，一个逃，一个守活寡，若要以结果论英雄，《红楼梦》里，无人胜出，那是一个人的自由意志逃不出命运的时dai(不知道为什么，佳缘不允许用这个词，到底敏感在哪啊,不明白。为了尊重原文以拼音代替)，你我得接受此的无奈。然而宝玉、黛玉、宝钗却如此鲜活的活在我们心里，让我们彷佛贾宝玉，为了黛玉和宝钗谁可爱而犹豫，这就是作者的胜利。赢的是曹雪芹。 obstacles, correcting misunderstandings, advocate good cadre style. 2, adhere to the scientific decision-making and democratic decision-making decision-making law. Correctly handle to ensure that government decrees and based on the actual creative work, giving full play to subjective initiative, put an end to implement the conference meeting, to document the implementation of documents etc. Improve the scientific and democratic decision-making mechanism, improve and implement the decision to solicit the views of experts, the public hearing system. Improve the important decision of risk assessment mechanism and legal review mechanism. 3, to promote team unity. Uphold and improve the system of annual party book talk heart to heart, mind and Party members, Party members to exchange each other not less than 2 times. The implementation of sound team democratic life system, consolidate and enhance the party's mass line educational practice will promote the achievement of the topic of democratic life, criticism and self-criticism normalization, a long-term. Adhere to the party on the basis of the principle of unity, enhance internal communication, strengthen internal supervision, self Sleep maintenance team collective image and authority. (three) to ensure the execution is not strong or disguised to resist government decrees issues. Individual Bureau leadership team members lack of learning political theory system, not from the objective reality, not with the party's interests above all the principles to deal with personal problems. In the specific work safety supervision in the execution is not strong, in the implementation of the decision to deploy the discount, make choices, engage in work, the implementation of the agreement, uncomfortable is not performed, open or disguised to resist, the lack of subject consciousness of the party organization, the lack of resist in society all kinds of bad habits and unwholesome tendencies of courage Gas and courage. Such as the liability insurance of safe production work, individual leaders that have someone arrested, and no funding, not in the global chess perspective to the countryside to carry out daily inspection, found none of my business acceptance of the resumption of production in an armchair, with a pen, indifferent. Corrective measures: (LED Leadership: Luo Mingjun, rectification time: before September 25th, insist for a long time) 1, to strengthen the sense of responsibility, work to solve the lack of decent occupation explain away, conduct problems. To establish the overall concept, eliminate departmentalism. Strict assessment and accountability, to solve the spiritual slack, nianqingpazhong, status quo, To establish and perfect the muddle along and other issues. Bureau staff conduct work regulations, standardize the behavior of personnel. 2, strengthen the responsibility system. One is the in-depth study and implement the "Hunan provincial Party and government leading cadres Interim Provisions on the work safety of a pair of > (Hunan Office issued 2013 No.